Maturity comes after responsibility? Or responsibility comes after maturity? What is actually the right squence? Individuals that holds responsibilities are forced/nutured to become a more mature being or is it that one is mature enough to act in a responsible manner?

Whatever it is, one would act more 'like an adult' as time passes.

Its like a sudden enlightenment to observe that the concerns of today is no longer the same of what it had been. What actually caused the change in us? Did the 'grown-up virus' hit us hard? Guess the experiences through the years made think and act 'adult-like'. Dad used to say things about 'future' that i couldnt really understand. Perhaps i was too young to comprehend the operations of the world. Now the tables has turned and I'm the one who talks abt it all the time, to a point he started calling it 'excessive nagging'. It made me take a few steps back to wonder what actually happened. Why am i starting to act like Dad and yet Dad seemed to reply in the way I would have used years ago. His reaction would only hit me with one conclusion ; Dad seemed to think and worry less about the future than I am right now. He's enjoying the moment for it is and looking extremely positive to what may come. That is exactly what I used to be when I was younger. Life wasnt kind to my childhood, I lived day-by-day. However when I was happier and more carefree.Thats a type of happiness I might be looking forward to. What may come remains unknown, enjoy the moment now.


On the other side of the reflection, life is improving bit by bit. Im spending more time with Dad and going out to have dinners more frequently. Dad seemed comfortable and even welcoming even with yongqiang. After more than 4 years of relationship, it appears that Dad has accepted yongqiang as a part of our small family. He would always prepare 2 sets of everything for yongqiang and I =) thanks DAD!

my dad is the best!